Today my ex-husband and I have been divorced for 10 years. Although time has healed most wombs, there are still so many things between us that make it difficult to completely move on.

As I reflect over the years in some ways it still hurts. It hurts to remember the moments of disharmony between us as well as the effects it has had on our daughters. Was it worth it? Did I move to fast? Did I really know him? Did he really know me? In hinds sight, I guess you could say that maybe there where signs, but then again love covers. One thing I know for certain, our marriage was not a mistake. We where blessed with two beautiful daughters and for that I am most grateful.

No, things didn’t work out between my ex-husband and me, but I have learned a lot. I value what I have learned from the experience. I have grown spiritually, and have been able to forgive. I know now that life is full of the unexpected and most importantly I have learned that in order to move forward I need to forgive.

I never expected for things to end as they did. I have worked through the pain and discomfort over the years which has taught me a lot about myself. I have grown emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I am grateful to have had the courage to take the journey of marriage. Although we where not as successful together as we had hoped I won’t look back with regret on the experience.

1. Think before you speak. -Team SPC
2. Your words matter. -Team SPC
3. Your children are a product of your thoughts, decisions, and most importantly your words. -Stephanie Holley Harris
4. Allow your words to shape the life you want for you and your family. Choose to let yourself live with love. -Team, SPC
5. Forgiveness is key in any healthy relationship. -Stephanie Holley Harris
6. Learn to love the you that you are inside and out, and the person you learn to love will be the reflection

of the person you are choosing daily to be. -Team, SPC
7. Repeat after me, I AM NOT THE VICTUM! -Stephanie Holley Harris
8. To process means to learn of yourself. -Stephanie Holley Harris
9. To move forward means to have learned yourself. -Stephanie Holley Harris
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Will We Ever Get Along?

Today I can say yes we will get along someday. I don't know how or when, but I have faith that someday it will happen. Had you asked me before, during, or after the separation and divorce, emotionally there would have been a much different answer, but today and for the sake of the children one word speaks loudly. FORGIVE. Let go and let God.


Unforgiveness is the root of all types of dysfunctional manifestations. It can lead to bitterness, hate, rebellion, psychological, and physical instability. It is one of the primary reasons for separation and divorce. Separation and divorce of a family is never easy. It is a painful process for every party involved, and I believe it can be one of the most painful experiences in life. It is love gone wrong for everyone! As an adult you try and understand. You try to communicate through the hurt and disappointment. You try and be strong for your children, for your family, but it is hard to master your emotions. Then one day you realize the only way to move forward is to stop looking back. You forgive to live again, and you find a way to help your children do the same.


Today I am grateful for wisdom, understanding, and God’s grace. Three key essentials to getting past your past to move forward with your future. I pull strength from God’s word. I practice understanding, and walk in His grace. They have been my constant companion and I believe they will enjoy being yours as well. You can achieve what you believe. Be encouraged, you two can get along again!